How to Prevent Divorce: Six Proven Solutions on How to Save Your Marriage
Engaged couples who are about to get married would have surely thought about divorce statistics at one point or another – but why do you think they still utter their vows in front of the minister?
If you’re in love, you would forget all about the divorce statistics and know at the back of your mind that no matter how high the divorce rate in the country is, you would surely find some way to ensure that your marriage will not be a mere statistic.
But the problem is that not all couples are willing to exert the effort into saving a marriage. At there merest hint of a problem, they disassociate themselves and think that these challenges should already count towards the ‘irreconcilable differences’.
What are the Six Proven Solutions on How to Save Your Marriage?
However, if you are willing to make your marriage work, there are definitely things that you can do. Remember that for every marital problem that you encounter, there is always a solution as long as you exert the effort to work on finding them.
Take a look at the six proven solutions on how to save your marriage and prevent an impending divorce from happening:
- Don’t leave your spouse emotionally or physically at the first hints of a problem.
Perhaps one of the most common causes of arguments between long time married couples is the thought that their partners are just not there for them. For example, if your relationship is undergoing a rough spot, do you usually talk it out? Or do you withdraw from your partner emotionally and physically? If your answer is the latter and you just let problems pass, remember that all the little arguments that you leave unresolved would eventually boil down to one huge argument that may lead to a divorce.
So try to face up to the problem and be there for your spouse even if you are in the middle of an argument.
- Make sure that you both have the time and space to grow as individuals.
This is another common mistake that newly married couples make. They think that if they spend time apart from each other, it will be like allowing your marriage to deteriorate.
However, you should give each other the time and space to grow as individuals. For example, you can have an agreement with your husband that you will let him spend weekly or bi-weekly poker nights with the boys while you stay at home with the kids, as long as you are also given the same privilege to do some ‘girly stuff’ with your friends.
This way, you can still feel that sense of individuality while having a sense of commitment to the marriage at the same time.
- Always get to the root of the problem if you are having arguments or if you are just plain feeling discontent.
There comes a point in a marriage where either the husband or the wife will feel a sense of discontent. When this happens, sit down, talk it out and get to the root of the problem to find out the reason behind this feeling.
More often than not, this sense of restlessness will fade and as long as your partner is there to support you – this would not be reason enough to even consider a divorce with your partner.
- Always take the time to talk and spend time with each other.
Usually, one of the reasons why couples consider getting a divorce is when the romance fizzles. This is a natural part of marriage, which is why you need to exert the effort to reliving the romance in your relationship. Always make time for each other even if your work and the kids are keeping you busy.
- Share your triumphs, disappointments and failures with each other.
These are all part of the communication process – the more experiences that you share with each other, the more stable the relationship will be – whether these experiences are good or bad.
- Always keep in mind what made you fall in love with each other in the first place.
By keeping in mind the aspects of your partner which made you fall in love with him or her in the first place, you will always be reminded of the love that you are sharing as a married couple. This will give you the strength to fight for the marriage despite the tough times which in turn will prevent a divorce from happening.
It might sound like a lot of work – but that’s exactly what you need to do if you want to prevent divorce from happening and make your marriage work.