Five Ways to Catch Your Husband’s Attention and Make Him Listen!
Probably the number one complaint that women have years into a marriage is that their husbands never listen. The reason is actually a combination of things. For example, if you are trying to get him to listen to how your day went while his eyes are glued to a sports game on TV – he’ll probably just nod without really listening to what you have to say.
Or sometimes, it’s the old “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus” syndrome. When the wife asks a seemingly innocent question that her husband directly answers – she will be sometimes disappointed when she does not hear the answer that she wants to hear.
It’s really a mystery how the way that men and women think seems to be from entirely different planets – but that’s what makes marriage, and life in general, interesting.
5 Ways to Catch your Husband’s Attention
Now, if you are looking for ways to catch your husband’s attention, here are the five top ways on how you can get him to actually listen:
- The number one way to get your husband to actually listen to you is to speak to him directly.
For example, if you drone on and one about how you got into a fight with your boss and he gave you an advice of what he thinks you should have done otherwise – you might get hurt because he did not take your side, right? Actually, this is just his way of telling you that he cares and he’s trying to help. If you do not need his advice and you just want him to listen to make you feel better – say so!
Confiding in men is not like sharing confidences with your girl friend, who knows exactly when just to listen and when to give advice.
- Start the conversation with an extremely interesting sentence.
When you start your sentence with “My mom and I went shopping and there’s this…” – it’s only the ’shopping’ word that will stick to his mind, making him lose interest with the rest of what you have to say.
Instead of beginning your story with the mundane part, start with the highlight to catch his attention and tell him how things came to be that way.
- Try not to get him into a serious talk during your intimate moments together.
Men are not multi-taskers like women, so don’t con him into a serious talk while you are doing the deed. He’ll probably not remember a word you said because he’s too caught up with what you are doing!
- Don’t talk to him while you are talking to your best friend at the same time!
If you want him to take the time to listen to you, return the favor and don’t initiate a conversation while you are listening to your best friend’s woes on the phone at the same time.
- Resort to good old bribery!
I know, I know… this may sound a little devious – but if that’s one of the best ways to make him listen, why not? Promise him a night of sensual pleasures, or a night out with the boys – whatever fair trade it takes to get him to listen to you.
Communication is the key if you want your marriage to work. By discovering what makes your husband tick and what it takes to get him to listen, he will at least hear you out and get the message.