What do you often do when having an argument or feeling disconnected with your partner? Have you ever thought of writing a Letter To Husband To Save Marriage? And do you believe in the effectiveness of such action? Yes, I myself have tried this method several times and I am so amazed at the effectiveness it has brought about. SO here, I would like to share some of my experiences in how to make use of letter to save your marriage with your husband, which I used to apply to my letters to my husband to save our marriage, And I really got happiness back thanks to it. So let’s consider them all in details as follow:
What To Do When It Comes To Writing A Letter To Your Husband?
OK, first of all, you should build a list of the requirements and wishes that you really would like to see your husband fulfill. For a better result, you should divide your list into four groups: emotional requirements, physical requirements, spiritual requirements, and mental requirements, of course. You may have an overflow of requirements in some cases, and in some cases, you may have to struggle to think of one requirement. But it doesn’t matter, don’t start writing immediately, but continue considering your own feelings until you feel that your list is complete. Remember to concentrate the list into the smallest number of major requirements so it doesn’t appear overwhelming.
When starting to explain the list to your husband, remember to discuss every requirement at a time until every subject is covered. Your husband may have difficulty agreeing the importance of some of your requirements, and it’s time you needed to discuss the key difference between men and women where sensitivity is concerned. But remember to maintain the proper attitude while explaining. When trying to appeal to him for understanding, don’t show your self-pity, jealousy, and whining. These approaches can make anyone irritated, especially your husband.
Finally, when starting to discuss your requirements, remember to make use of the salt principle when it is possible. Look for creative ways and suitable times to share these requirements and include them into your letter. Never blame or imply failure on his part; just explain your real feeling. You even let him read it alone if he wants. But make sure that he can read it during a calm, tension-free time of the day.
Explaining your feelings and needs doesn’t mean voicing complaints.
One couple, who constantly bickered, decides to go through a whole week without voicing any criticism. Rather than argue, whenever either of them get irritated, they write it down.
Whenever one of them is annoyed by the other’s failure, he or she chooses to write it down. They put each “complaint” slip in one of two boxes, named “his” and “hers” box. At the end of the week, they plan to open the boxes at the same time. He will read her complaints and she would read his.
And on Saturday night, he is the person to go first. He opens the box and begins to read the dozens little notes, one at a time. He starts feel the hurt and disappointment in himself as he read the complaints. “You’ve been promising to fix the screen door for six months, but until now it remains not fixed.” “You always forget to put your socks in the dirty clothes.” “I’m getting sick and tired of having to pick up after you everywhere you go.” He gradually sincerely grieved by all the ways that he had done with his wife.
What about the wife? She opens the box and pulls out the first slip of paper. She read it while lumping in her throat. And the next note really makes her cry. Picking up and finishing reading three more notes, she read them more quickly and began to weep. Every note in the box she reads, “I love you.” “I love you.” “I love you.”
As a wife, I understand that you have been fooled into thinking that one day your complaints would finally re-mold your husband into the perfect mate. But I believe that the example above has clearly proves that unconditional love and tenderness, not complaints, can change a cranky opponent into a humble, loving partner. And through this story, I think that you must have got to know what to write in the letter to your husband to save your marriage, right?
However, in any situations, it is important to express your real feelings. One wife really touches her husband’s heart with the letter she writes to him. He actually changes his weekly schedule to include more time with her. Here is a quotation in that letter:
“Recently I’ve felt like a shining little red apple —one of the top ones in a barrel. Everyday you come by and pick up one, but never me. Your hand reaches close, sometimes you even lift me up, but you always choose another. I’ve got found a little worm growing inside me, and I become less attractive day by day. And I’m extremely waiting for the day when you choose me!”
The Worst Approach
Yeah, beside some of things you should do above, there are some things you should avoid when writing a letter to your husband.
One woman tells me that she gets really discouraged about her husband’s lack of interest in her. He has an incredible drive and interest in his work, his friends, his and pastimes, but almost no interest in her or their children. She complains so much with a hope that he will change, but there have been no changes.
When I discuss this with her husband, I realize that she always confronts him with his failures as a husband. Her husband says she seems to always choose the wrong time to talk about their problems— “Just when I was trying to unwind.”, said he. Worst, she even starts the talking with all prosecutor, judge, and jury.
Turning back with our issue of writing a letter to your husband, you need to consider a suitable approach in your letter so that your husband can understand what you really want, then he can make change and even more respect you. So now, have you got to know what to do and what to avoid to have a proper letter to your husband for your marriage saving?